Many people get prepared for the baby’s arrival by building a beautiful nursery, deciding whether they should co-sleep or buy a crib, and find ways to secure the baby in their cars. They have researched between using formula and breastfeeding, practiced labor breathing techniques and attended childbirth education classes. They try to get fully prepared for his arrival, but what’s left? Thanks to many researches on child development, you can be fully prepared to respond to the baby’s unspoken needs and desires. This means you can find a way to fulfill his needs even before the baby is released from the hospital. Most information on child development tends to be emphasized on what a baby needs to do on a certain age. It is important, because you can understand about baby’s development while making you aware about any potential developmental issues. However, equally essential is information about infants’ emotional development, but unfortunately, the required information isn’t always accurate or readily available.
By managing your baby’s emotional you can help your baby handles stresses later in life. You will become an important role model on how a relationship should be.
When your sweetie comes into the world, she has little awareness of their selves, you and the surrounding. Their job is to become used to life outside the mother’s womb. You need to take it easy and create a gradual process. These are a few things to make your job a lot easier:
• Attunement means tuning in to your child’s emotions and energy: If you’re lucky, both of you are a perfect fit right from the beginning, which encourage you to accompany your child as much as you can. Some parents may not be such an easy fit and may need some more efforts to understand each other and make changes which correspond to your baby’s needs. For example, some babies don’t want to be held often and if you hold him round-the-clock, try not to take it too personally if he is rejecting you. In fact, newborns literally don’t know that parents are also human, like him!
• Reduce stimulation: Thankfully, most babies have a “stimulus barrier” that blocks distractions and prevents them from becoming highly-stimulated. As infants’ nervous systems develop, they can handle a growing number of noises and distractions. Until then, for about two months, it is your job to keep the child feels relax. However, remember that the womb isn’t actually quiet, so maintaining a complete silence around your baby is not necessary. Just be aware of things that could overstimulate your baby. If your toddlers are around, tell them that they should be a little quieter, but as soon as, your baby starts to show some interests on your antics, you’ll find yourself thanking those children for distracting your baby!
• Expect a lack of schedule: Newborns can easily mix up between days and nights, not to mention that they need to eat every three or four hours (depending on whether you’re using formula or breastfeeding).
The first two months can be difficult for any parent. Be patient; remember that your sweetheart isn’t behaving like this to make your life a mess; she’s just trying to figure things out. Think of it as just another step of development, and things will eventually change. It doesn’t have to be difficult, you can practically use massage as a mean to get attuned with your rosebud and sensitively manage her stimulation level. Regrettably, massage can’t make a baby to have a regular feeding and sleeping pattern any sooner.
Calming a Baby
Some parents are lucky to have babies who are easy from the beginning! If you’re not so lucky, the baby may scream constantly from the moment she arrives home, all she needs is an extra sensitivity and care. These are some suggestions that can be helpful:
• Swaddle your baby: Very nervous newborns want to be wrapped like a burrito, because it closely resembles a womb. Swaddling is often a good way of giving your infant the sensation of being continuously held. Jittery babies have repeated startle responses; the baby’s arms and legs may flail about, which stimulates her even more. They aren’t sure about their bodies yet and any uncontrollable movement can be terrifying.
• Get some supports: Some babies are highly sensitive. If your newborn is tense from birth, wants to be fed every hour, screams a lot, and can’t sleep, then your baby is a needy type. If so, try to be understanding, because your baby needs extra support. Because high need and jumpy babies are very sensitive, try to do everything gently, for example when feeding and bathing them.
In her early months, your baby may need to be held often. Feeling them in your arms may keep her warm and give her easier adjustment in her life. If you think holding her constantly is difficult, buy a comfortable sling.
It is often a good idea to start massaging your sweetheart at this moment. However, remember that your baby may feel cold (and vulnerable!) without proper clothing. Babies enjoy gentle contacts and can reap plenty of benefits from it.